Allison Kaye Parker

Whoa what? A girls name for the TITLE of a blog entry? What does this mean? Well i don't know, i guess titles to blogs usually tell what they are about right? Well i guess you have your answer then.

In today's ever changing world, there are so many ways people meet people. Through school, church, extracurricular activities, being social, clubbing (one thing I've never been into but I'm sure some people get into), and a plethora of other ways as well. Among that plethora, there is something called online dating. Many people do it, many people don't, many people love it, many people hate it. The fact of the matter is, it's really not much different than going to a club by yourself, where you don't know anyone, and meet a new friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or just an acquaintance. In all honesty, i never thought i would be one to go online looking for someone to date. But seeing how anyone I've ever dated before hasn't been up to the standards i set, or for whatever reason....look, simply said: Dating is annoying and sucks no matter how you look at it. That is until you find a special person, and you're whole world turns around and makes you wonder why it was so hard to find this person.

As Defined by Dictionary.com:
Soul Mate: 1. A person with whom one has a strong affinity;2. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

Lets dive deeper ok?

Affinity:

1.	a natural liking for or attraction to a person, thing, idea, etc.

2.	a person, thing, idea, etc., for which such a natural liking or attraction is felt.

3.	relationship by marriage or by ties other than those of blood (distinguished from consanguinity).

4.	inherent likeness or agreement; close resemblance or connection.

5.	Biology. the phylogenetic relationship between two organisms or groups of organisms resulting in a resemblance in general plan or structure, or in the essential structural parts.

6.	Chemistry. the force by which atoms are held together in chemical compounds.

1 and 2 are basically the same thing. Basically, an affinity is an attraction for whatever reason. Usually a natural feeling, or reason
3 is more of a bigger perspective view. In the dating world, of course it generally leads to marriage. Of course not in all cases, but if 2 people have an affinity, why not get married right?
4 is pretty interesting. Inherent Likeness or agreement. Lets dive deeper!!
Inherent-existing in someone or something as a permanent and inseparable element, quality, or attribute.
A PERMANENT and INSEPARABLE "Something." Something that doesn't go away. Something that stays with anything forever. For example, Females Inherently conceive children and give birth. A male cannot by any REAL means give birth. Ok you could probably argue "What about hermaphrodites born with both parts?" Or "Haven't you seen the movie Junior?" Both arguable points, but in any natural, normal, selection it is impossible for a male to conceive a child, carry a fetus, and give birth. Ok...so I'm off on a tangent, back to the main issue.
5 is rather fascinating don't you think? Who would have thought you could get down to a biological stance when talking about a soul mate. But i guess it makes sense, since the world basically thrives on the idea of things living together in a given place and/or time, with pro-creation and, the circle of life. I could go into what Phylogenetic means, but i really don't want to....you want me to? Jeeze...OK
Phylogenetic:the development or evolution of a particular group of organisms.
So basically if you get down to it, Affinity could mean the evolution of organisms living together in a given environment, or whatever you want to call it. Ok I'm done trying to sound smart now.

Basically my point and question is this: Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Well according to our little study and research, a "Soul Mate" could be anyone that shares similar characteristics and traits, where there is a natural attraction or liking to the given person. So seeing how there has been a certain flow to this blog entry, let me get to my main point.

I met a girl online one day a few months ago named Kamee Price. I went out a few times with her, thought things were going well, then for whatever reason she disappeared off the face of the planet. I don't know what her deal is, or what happened. Things were going really well, at least i thought. I suppose she has some growing up and maturing to do, and has some issues in her life she needs taking care of, and probably a variety of other reasons as well. Well since i haven't heard from her basically since i got back from Spain, and even then it was very limited, i ultimately decided to move on and start dating other people again. I hadn't really stopped yet, but as i was interested in her and wanted to see where things would go, i was devoting most of my "dating" time to her to see if things would progress. I rejoined the previous website where i met Kamee to see if i would have any chance at meeting someone again. I really wasn't taking it seriously, and was looking for other people in different social situations i found myself in here in Happy Valley AKA P-town AKA Provo. But guess what, as much as it may surprise you, things just weren't going that well at all. I wasn't down or anything, i just knew it wasn't my time yet and felt like something could come up soon. Well it did.

I met a girl named Allison Kaye Parker on May 9th, 2008. The only reason i know that date is because that's the date i first received what Online Dater call "flirts". Really not a tactic to actually meeting people in my opinion. It's kind of like throwing a fish hook in a lake without bait on it. I mean it's there, and if the fish takes it, awesome. If not, well i guess you get the bait right? Well usually i don't pay attention to flirts just because it's usually people w/ no pictures trying to get a nibble. Well i looked at some i had the day in question, and saw a flirt from Allison. I saw her picture and thought "This can't be right...really." So i looked at her profile and decided to write her a message. I think she responded to the message, but something just really basic. Then i responded back, and never heard from her for a couple days. Then i got online one night, and she was online and available to chat. So, i said hi. (I feel like I'm telling a suspense story...although it's not a suspense story...but it could be!) We started talking, and i don't remember very well, but i think we just talked for a little bit the first night. It's gone flying up hill from there

Basically for the last week and a half of my life, i have discovered a person who i feel truly is, by definition above, a soul mate. We have so much in common. We think alike. We know what the other is going to say before they say it. We feel the same about so many different things, it almost seems surreal. It feels like a fantasy. How is it possible to get to know someone SO well in just such a short period of time, that you literally and honestly feel like you have known them you're entire life, or longer. Anyone that knows me, knows i like to believe things happen for a reason. It doesn't have to be that God set the stone rolling in motion, and made things happen, but simply things happen for a reason and at the given time because if they happened any other time, it wouldn't have the same effect. I have various example from my mission, current situation, school, mission, etc. Whether big or small, things do happen for a reason.

I can't say what's going to happen in the future. I can't see the future. All i know, is that for now, things with Allison are so awesome. We haven't stopped talking since we met. Whether it has been talking online, through texting, and yes people EVEN on the phone, we haven't stopped or had a dull or awkward moment. I feel like i can tell her anything, and i know she feels the same. A really great friend once told me he met his wife, and they became best friends first and then things progressed from there. Right now I have a new best friend. Jake Beuchert is getting married. Mike Bready is getting married. I'm losing 2 best friends. I know I'm really not losing them, but in a way i am. They will be marrying their new best friends and be with them 24/7, loving and cherishing them. It's really been hurting me lately just realizing i will be losing them. I will still see them, but it will be different. Allison is also losing a best friend. Her name is Sarah, and ironically, she is marrying a guy named Jeff. The timing with us meeting was right on, it happened when it did for a reason. Again i can't say I'm going to marry her, of course we have only even KNOWN each other for a week and a half. We haven't even met yet for crying out loud (That will be happening on Monday May 26th, 2008. Thank goodness for holidays...) Even though i feel like i know everything about her, i know i have barely scratched the surface of who she is. I'm so excited to meet her, and get to know her on a different level. Hey, maybe things won't work out in the long run. But for now, they are awesome and I haven't been this happy in such a long time, maybe ever. So keep your eyes peeled for more updates on the Allison Kaye situation :)

PS. I know i need to get another blog entry up on Spain, I've just been SO busy with school and work and life, i just haven't had time. In fact I'm putting off homework right now to write this. But this couldn't wait, since many of you have asked me recently about my dating situation, i had to share it.

What a FANTABULOUS idea!!

You might wonder what the title means. Don't you worry, you devilish little person reading this. The fantabulous idea will be revealed.

First let me go ahead and start with some background on how the whole experience came to be. This actually could be a pretty big, "way back when" story, i'll try to keep it at a minimum. I have an Uncle who is divorced. As we know, generally, it is harder for older people with many kids to go out and start dating again. Since we are in the digital age, and it is generally acceptable and not frowned upon to use the internet for everything, he decided to use it to try and find some people to date. The site being referred to is ldsplanet.com. Yes it is what it sounds like. A website devoted to dating for those of the LDS faith. Of course it isn't run by the church, but it feels like a safer place to meet people who believe in the same things and have the same morals and etc. So the whole point of this, without rambling on much more, is my uncle met some people on there and had at least had a good time going out with them. My sister, who by the way is an amazing girl and shouldn't have ever needed to use the internet for dating purposes, was having some bad luck with the guys she knew. My grandma who is technologically impaired herself, suggested to my sister she try it out just for fun and see what happens. She met a lot of guys on there she talked to and went out with. Since my sister, uncle, and cousin (later to find out) all tried it, i figured why don't i? The way i see it, is really there are just different ways to meet people, make friends, and find people you are interested in. The internet just seems logical now adays with all the technology and things available to us. However, by no means am i saying it's the only way to go or am i frowning on standard normal meeting, and dating in person. It's just another means of communication and meeting people.

Well needless to say i did find some people to talk to, but after like 2 months i really hadn't found anyone i was really interested in, or at least intrigued to meet and take out. The week i decided to "cancel" my membership, just meaning stop paying for it and letting my subscription ride out, i met a pretty dang awesome girl. Oddly enough i forgot to cancel it and had another month for it, therefore making my communication with her longer than expected. Of course we exchanged emails so we weren't limited to the LDSPlanet zone of use, and eventually phone numbers and it has now turned into a real friendship. Not just "someone i met online." At least that's how i feel about it. Maybe she feels differently, but it doesn't appear to be so for now.

Since neither one of us is in school, and we both work a ton, even conversations on the phone have been limited. But we have talked quite a bit, and decided we needed to meet in person and do something fun. Well she told me she had March 14th off work, and ironically enough when it came down to it, i did too. The original plan was for me to just to go up to her house....oh yeah side note....she lives in Brigham City, which is about 2 hours from Provo...which makes everything more difficult, but doable. So the plan was just to basically meet and have fun doing whatever. I was at work and just thinking if there was anything we could do in Salt Lake that would be: A) fun B) worthwhile and C) different and unusual. I casually just found a website of things going on in Salt Lake, and found out Disney On Ice is being put on right now. Since i was at work, i texted her kind of jokingly about going to Disney on Ice. She replied way excited and said we should do it. I looked up tickets, and of course prices varied. But there were some that really weren't too expensive. Plus i felt like i owed it to her to do something fun since we wouldn't really get to hang out very often due to distance issues. So we went.

So we made plans to just meet in Salt Lake, since it's basically the middle for both of us, and most practical. Since i didn't have to work that day at all, and she had to work til 3, we decided we'd meet around 5:00 up at Gateway. I got there first and waited for her, and put our name down on the list for the California Pizza Kitchen. She got there and we met and talked and joked about whatever, then went in and sat down. Now the only reason i'm telling every detail of this, really is for myself. So if i'm boring you, i'm sorry! So we go in and sit down. Our waiter is a soft talker, on top of the loud restaurant, so we really had no idea what the crap he was talking about at all. We ordered some pizza...half bbq chicken and half Thai....which was AMAZING by the way, and i highly recommend it the next time you go there. Our stupid waiter never brought us any bread, which is BS cuz they are supposed to and i totally forgot until we were walking out and saw other people with it, AND i had left him like a 20% tip...when he really didn't do jack for us. Anyway, we finished dinner and wen to the show. Now, keep in mind first of all that this is DISNEY on Ice...not some random small name event. So of course there were TONS of people with little kids there. Probably at least 60% of them were little girls dressed up as Princesses, seeing how the title of the show was Princess Wishes. So basically it was amazing seeing all the little girls dressed up as Princesses. Even the little pudgy ones were freaking cute too. I had thought about dressing up, but not seriously and had we dressed up I'm sure i would have felt way weird, but not out of place. There were even mom's dressed up....yeah pretty awesome. I wish i would have taken my camera. I'm retarded for not...but what can you do. Go again i guess....The show really, was pretty amazing. I was quite impressed. It was pretty funny too when they brought out some huge dragon thing and made it kind of scary, during the Sleeping Beauty section, and all the little girls were scared and clinging to their mom's and siblings. Sadly, she didn't cling to me....but it's probably only because we were laughing so hard at the little kids freaking out (not to be mean, but it was pretty funny. And cute too :) ). Intermission came, we went to look at the stuff they had for sale (of course) and i totally would have bought her a something, except for every something was at least $15...for a plastic wand that lit up....of course amazing to little kids, but completely unnecessary for what they cost. Even the bottle water (without a cap...NBA regulations...) was like 2.75 each. Yeah, lame. So we watched the rest of the show...that she mocked as being romantic and untrue....kind of odd, but funny, and left of course :)

We didn't know what to do. it was only like 9:20, and since we didn't want to end the night so early, and her house was an hour away, and mine (in sandy) was only 20 minutes, we left her car in a safe place in Salt Lake and went to my house. We decided it only appropriate to watch a Disney movie, seeing how we just came from a Disney event. The movie we decided on, was Beauty and the Beast. Basically it was exceptionally amazing because my parents only had it on VHS....yeah i don't know how we seriously ever got through the VHS period in our history. I do appreciate DVD and HD more now than i ever did before. That movie though, is amazing. It is seriously so good, such a good story, so....amazing! I took her back to Salt Lake and she drove the hour home and the night "officially" ended around 1:30 am for both of us. It was quite the adventure.

No i didn't kiss her, no we didn't hold hands, but yes i do want to go out with her again and we are planning on it for a future date. Just at the moment i'm not right sure when since i haven't heard from her all day. But she had to work today, and i'm sure she's pretty beat so i figured i'd give it a day rest :)

So what was the fantabulous idea? Well if you haven't figured it out yet, it was Disney on Ice. I do recommend it to anyone with an itching to do something fun and different and not TERRIBLY expensive at the same time. Just be prepared to be in a crowd of snow white, sleeping beauty, aerial, and princess jasmines all ages 3-10. It was quite the good time, and again another way of living life and being good at it!