Allison Kaye Parker

Whoa what? A girls name for the TITLE of a blog entry? What does this mean? Well i don't know, i guess titles to blogs usually tell what they are about right? Well i guess you have your answer then.

In today's ever changing world, there are so many ways people meet people. Through school, church, extracurricular activities, being social, clubbing (one thing I've never been into but I'm sure some people get into), and a plethora of other ways as well. Among that plethora, there is something called online dating. Many people do it, many people don't, many people love it, many people hate it. The fact of the matter is, it's really not much different than going to a club by yourself, where you don't know anyone, and meet a new friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or just an acquaintance. In all honesty, i never thought i would be one to go online looking for someone to date. But seeing how anyone I've ever dated before hasn't been up to the standards i set, or for whatever reason....look, simply said: Dating is annoying and sucks no matter how you look at it. That is until you find a special person, and you're whole world turns around and makes you wonder why it was so hard to find this person.

As Defined by Dictionary.com:
Soul Mate: 1. A person with whom one has a strong affinity;2. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

Lets dive deeper ok?

Affinity:

1.	a natural liking for or attraction to a person, thing, idea, etc.

2.	a person, thing, idea, etc., for which such a natural liking or attraction is felt.

3.	relationship by marriage or by ties other than those of blood (distinguished from consanguinity).

4.	inherent likeness or agreement; close resemblance or connection.

5.	Biology. the phylogenetic relationship between two organisms or groups of organisms resulting in a resemblance in general plan or structure, or in the essential structural parts.

6.	Chemistry. the force by which atoms are held together in chemical compounds.

1 and 2 are basically the same thing. Basically, an affinity is an attraction for whatever reason. Usually a natural feeling, or reason
3 is more of a bigger perspective view. In the dating world, of course it generally leads to marriage. Of course not in all cases, but if 2 people have an affinity, why not get married right?
4 is pretty interesting. Inherent Likeness or agreement. Lets dive deeper!!
Inherent-existing in someone or something as a permanent and inseparable element, quality, or attribute.
A PERMANENT and INSEPARABLE "Something." Something that doesn't go away. Something that stays with anything forever. For example, Females Inherently conceive children and give birth. A male cannot by any REAL means give birth. Ok you could probably argue "What about hermaphrodites born with both parts?" Or "Haven't you seen the movie Junior?" Both arguable points, but in any natural, normal, selection it is impossible for a male to conceive a child, carry a fetus, and give birth. Ok...so I'm off on a tangent, back to the main issue.
5 is rather fascinating don't you think? Who would have thought you could get down to a biological stance when talking about a soul mate. But i guess it makes sense, since the world basically thrives on the idea of things living together in a given place and/or time, with pro-creation and, the circle of life. I could go into what Phylogenetic means, but i really don't want to....you want me to? Jeeze...OK
Phylogenetic:the development or evolution of a particular group of organisms.
So basically if you get down to it, Affinity could mean the evolution of organisms living together in a given environment, or whatever you want to call it. Ok I'm done trying to sound smart now.

Basically my point and question is this: Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Well according to our little study and research, a "Soul Mate" could be anyone that shares similar characteristics and traits, where there is a natural attraction or liking to the given person. So seeing how there has been a certain flow to this blog entry, let me get to my main point.

I met a girl online one day a few months ago named Kamee Price. I went out a few times with her, thought things were going well, then for whatever reason she disappeared off the face of the planet. I don't know what her deal is, or what happened. Things were going really well, at least i thought. I suppose she has some growing up and maturing to do, and has some issues in her life she needs taking care of, and probably a variety of other reasons as well. Well since i haven't heard from her basically since i got back from Spain, and even then it was very limited, i ultimately decided to move on and start dating other people again. I hadn't really stopped yet, but as i was interested in her and wanted to see where things would go, i was devoting most of my "dating" time to her to see if things would progress. I rejoined the previous website where i met Kamee to see if i would have any chance at meeting someone again. I really wasn't taking it seriously, and was looking for other people in different social situations i found myself in here in Happy Valley AKA P-town AKA Provo. But guess what, as much as it may surprise you, things just weren't going that well at all. I wasn't down or anything, i just knew it wasn't my time yet and felt like something could come up soon. Well it did.

I met a girl named Allison Kaye Parker on May 9th, 2008. The only reason i know that date is because that's the date i first received what Online Dater call "flirts". Really not a tactic to actually meeting people in my opinion. It's kind of like throwing a fish hook in a lake without bait on it. I mean it's there, and if the fish takes it, awesome. If not, well i guess you get the bait right? Well usually i don't pay attention to flirts just because it's usually people w/ no pictures trying to get a nibble. Well i looked at some i had the day in question, and saw a flirt from Allison. I saw her picture and thought "This can't be right...really." So i looked at her profile and decided to write her a message. I think she responded to the message, but something just really basic. Then i responded back, and never heard from her for a couple days. Then i got online one night, and she was online and available to chat. So, i said hi. (I feel like I'm telling a suspense story...although it's not a suspense story...but it could be!) We started talking, and i don't remember very well, but i think we just talked for a little bit the first night. It's gone flying up hill from there

Basically for the last week and a half of my life, i have discovered a person who i feel truly is, by definition above, a soul mate. We have so much in common. We think alike. We know what the other is going to say before they say it. We feel the same about so many different things, it almost seems surreal. It feels like a fantasy. How is it possible to get to know someone SO well in just such a short period of time, that you literally and honestly feel like you have known them you're entire life, or longer. Anyone that knows me, knows i like to believe things happen for a reason. It doesn't have to be that God set the stone rolling in motion, and made things happen, but simply things happen for a reason and at the given time because if they happened any other time, it wouldn't have the same effect. I have various example from my mission, current situation, school, mission, etc. Whether big or small, things do happen for a reason.

I can't say what's going to happen in the future. I can't see the future. All i know, is that for now, things with Allison are so awesome. We haven't stopped talking since we met. Whether it has been talking online, through texting, and yes people EVEN on the phone, we haven't stopped or had a dull or awkward moment. I feel like i can tell her anything, and i know she feels the same. A really great friend once told me he met his wife, and they became best friends first and then things progressed from there. Right now I have a new best friend. Jake Beuchert is getting married. Mike Bready is getting married. I'm losing 2 best friends. I know I'm really not losing them, but in a way i am. They will be marrying their new best friends and be with them 24/7, loving and cherishing them. It's really been hurting me lately just realizing i will be losing them. I will still see them, but it will be different. Allison is also losing a best friend. Her name is Sarah, and ironically, she is marrying a guy named Jeff. The timing with us meeting was right on, it happened when it did for a reason. Again i can't say I'm going to marry her, of course we have only even KNOWN each other for a week and a half. We haven't even met yet for crying out loud (That will be happening on Monday May 26th, 2008. Thank goodness for holidays...) Even though i feel like i know everything about her, i know i have barely scratched the surface of who she is. I'm so excited to meet her, and get to know her on a different level. Hey, maybe things won't work out in the long run. But for now, they are awesome and I haven't been this happy in such a long time, maybe ever. So keep your eyes peeled for more updates on the Allison Kaye situation :)

PS. I know i need to get another blog entry up on Spain, I've just been SO busy with school and work and life, i just haven't had time. In fact I'm putting off homework right now to write this. But this couldn't wait, since many of you have asked me recently about my dating situation, i had to share it.