Allison Kaye Parker

Whoa what? A girls name for the TITLE of a blog entry? What does this mean? Well i don't know, i guess titles to blogs usually tell what they are about right? Well i guess you have your answer then.

In today's ever changing world, there are so many ways people meet people. Through school, church, extracurricular activities, being social, clubbing (one thing I've never been into but I'm sure some people get into), and a plethora of other ways as well. Among that plethora, there is something called online dating. Many people do it, many people don't, many people love it, many people hate it. The fact of the matter is, it's really not much different than going to a club by yourself, where you don't know anyone, and meet a new friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or just an acquaintance. In all honesty, i never thought i would be one to go online looking for someone to date. But seeing how anyone I've ever dated before hasn't been up to the standards i set, or for whatever reason....look, simply said: Dating is annoying and sucks no matter how you look at it. That is until you find a special person, and you're whole world turns around and makes you wonder why it was so hard to find this person.

As Defined by Dictionary.com:
Soul Mate: 1. A person with whom one has a strong affinity;2. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

Lets dive deeper ok?

Affinity:

1.	a natural liking for or attraction to a person, thing, idea, etc.

2.	a person, thing, idea, etc., for which such a natural liking or attraction is felt.

3.	relationship by marriage or by ties other than those of blood (distinguished from consanguinity).

4.	inherent likeness or agreement; close resemblance or connection.

5.	Biology. the phylogenetic relationship between two organisms or groups of organisms resulting in a resemblance in general plan or structure, or in the essential structural parts.

6.	Chemistry. the force by which atoms are held together in chemical compounds.

1 and 2 are basically the same thing. Basically, an affinity is an attraction for whatever reason. Usually a natural feeling, or reason
3 is more of a bigger perspective view. In the dating world, of course it generally leads to marriage. Of course not in all cases, but if 2 people have an affinity, why not get married right?
4 is pretty interesting. Inherent Likeness or agreement. Lets dive deeper!!
Inherent-existing in someone or something as a permanent and inseparable element, quality, or attribute.
A PERMANENT and INSEPARABLE "Something." Something that doesn't go away. Something that stays with anything forever. For example, Females Inherently conceive children and give birth. A male cannot by any REAL means give birth. Ok you could probably argue "What about hermaphrodites born with both parts?" Or "Haven't you seen the movie Junior?" Both arguable points, but in any natural, normal, selection it is impossible for a male to conceive a child, carry a fetus, and give birth. Ok...so I'm off on a tangent, back to the main issue.
5 is rather fascinating don't you think? Who would have thought you could get down to a biological stance when talking about a soul mate. But i guess it makes sense, since the world basically thrives on the idea of things living together in a given place and/or time, with pro-creation and, the circle of life. I could go into what Phylogenetic means, but i really don't want to....you want me to? Jeeze...OK
Phylogenetic:the development or evolution of a particular group of organisms.
So basically if you get down to it, Affinity could mean the evolution of organisms living together in a given environment, or whatever you want to call it. Ok I'm done trying to sound smart now.

Basically my point and question is this: Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Well according to our little study and research, a "Soul Mate" could be anyone that shares similar characteristics and traits, where there is a natural attraction or liking to the given person. So seeing how there has been a certain flow to this blog entry, let me get to my main point.

I met a girl online one day a few months ago named Kamee Price. I went out a few times with her, thought things were going well, then for whatever reason she disappeared off the face of the planet. I don't know what her deal is, or what happened. Things were going really well, at least i thought. I suppose she has some growing up and maturing to do, and has some issues in her life she needs taking care of, and probably a variety of other reasons as well. Well since i haven't heard from her basically since i got back from Spain, and even then it was very limited, i ultimately decided to move on and start dating other people again. I hadn't really stopped yet, but as i was interested in her and wanted to see where things would go, i was devoting most of my "dating" time to her to see if things would progress. I rejoined the previous website where i met Kamee to see if i would have any chance at meeting someone again. I really wasn't taking it seriously, and was looking for other people in different social situations i found myself in here in Happy Valley AKA P-town AKA Provo. But guess what, as much as it may surprise you, things just weren't going that well at all. I wasn't down or anything, i just knew it wasn't my time yet and felt like something could come up soon. Well it did.

I met a girl named Allison Kaye Parker on May 9th, 2008. The only reason i know that date is because that's the date i first received what Online Dater call "flirts". Really not a tactic to actually meeting people in my opinion. It's kind of like throwing a fish hook in a lake without bait on it. I mean it's there, and if the fish takes it, awesome. If not, well i guess you get the bait right? Well usually i don't pay attention to flirts just because it's usually people w/ no pictures trying to get a nibble. Well i looked at some i had the day in question, and saw a flirt from Allison. I saw her picture and thought "This can't be right...really." So i looked at her profile and decided to write her a message. I think she responded to the message, but something just really basic. Then i responded back, and never heard from her for a couple days. Then i got online one night, and she was online and available to chat. So, i said hi. (I feel like I'm telling a suspense story...although it's not a suspense story...but it could be!) We started talking, and i don't remember very well, but i think we just talked for a little bit the first night. It's gone flying up hill from there

Basically for the last week and a half of my life, i have discovered a person who i feel truly is, by definition above, a soul mate. We have so much in common. We think alike. We know what the other is going to say before they say it. We feel the same about so many different things, it almost seems surreal. It feels like a fantasy. How is it possible to get to know someone SO well in just such a short period of time, that you literally and honestly feel like you have known them you're entire life, or longer. Anyone that knows me, knows i like to believe things happen for a reason. It doesn't have to be that God set the stone rolling in motion, and made things happen, but simply things happen for a reason and at the given time because if they happened any other time, it wouldn't have the same effect. I have various example from my mission, current situation, school, mission, etc. Whether big or small, things do happen for a reason.

I can't say what's going to happen in the future. I can't see the future. All i know, is that for now, things with Allison are so awesome. We haven't stopped talking since we met. Whether it has been talking online, through texting, and yes people EVEN on the phone, we haven't stopped or had a dull or awkward moment. I feel like i can tell her anything, and i know she feels the same. A really great friend once told me he met his wife, and they became best friends first and then things progressed from there. Right now I have a new best friend. Jake Beuchert is getting married. Mike Bready is getting married. I'm losing 2 best friends. I know I'm really not losing them, but in a way i am. They will be marrying their new best friends and be with them 24/7, loving and cherishing them. It's really been hurting me lately just realizing i will be losing them. I will still see them, but it will be different. Allison is also losing a best friend. Her name is Sarah, and ironically, she is marrying a guy named Jeff. The timing with us meeting was right on, it happened when it did for a reason. Again i can't say I'm going to marry her, of course we have only even KNOWN each other for a week and a half. We haven't even met yet for crying out loud (That will be happening on Monday May 26th, 2008. Thank goodness for holidays...) Even though i feel like i know everything about her, i know i have barely scratched the surface of who she is. I'm so excited to meet her, and get to know her on a different level. Hey, maybe things won't work out in the long run. But for now, they are awesome and I haven't been this happy in such a long time, maybe ever. So keep your eyes peeled for more updates on the Allison Kaye situation :)

PS. I know i need to get another blog entry up on Spain, I've just been SO busy with school and work and life, i just haven't had time. In fact I'm putting off homework right now to write this. But this couldn't wait, since many of you have asked me recently about my dating situation, i had to share it.

Stepping Out

No, not out of the closet. But a bubble. What kind of bubble? Well i guess there aren't many bubbles you can step out of. I know that I actually am a pretty social person, but i'm not usually one to actually make an effort to make friends. It just sort of happens for me. I think other people just automatically sense that i'm a friendly person and that they can talk to me, and even share things with me. It's kind of uncanny how people seriously just randomly open up to me. I don't mind it at all, i think it's just one of the talents the Lord has given me. So anyway, the reason i'm even talking about this....
Tonight we had a ward activity. We went up the canyon to a park, and made tinfoil dinners and just played outdoors games and stuff. Since it is spring/summer term right now, basically Summer Semester, and there is like no one around, the stake joined our ward with another ward. Since our ward is mostly full of people that are already working in a career or older and more established, they thought the other ward would be way small and joining it with ours would make things nice. Well, the other ward anticipated only having at maximum like 50 people there for this coming semester, but it really turned out they have a huge ward still. So joined with our ward, now the combined ward is extremely massive, thus making it even harder to get to know people. So anyway, tonight at our ward party i kind of made it a point to try and get to know some of the people there. I mean i honestly still don't know even half the people in my own ward, but i guess you can never really get to know everyone. So tonight i just really thought, you know, i have no reason to not make friends with other people. We were playing Frisbee, and had been playing like seriously over an hour or so, even longer than that, so i got pretty tired. I went over to get some water, there was none, and there was a girl sitting there just watching people play so i went and sat down and started talking to her. She wasn't really my type, and when i realized that...i guess you could say my normal reaction would be to kind of break away and go play again, or distract myself....probably not right or a good thing? I don't know. But i decided to just sit down and talk to her. Who doesn't like to sit and talk with a new friend right? Basically she just opened up to me. Even she was like "i don't know why i'm telling you all this stuff." Kind of validated my knowledge of how easy it is for people to trust me. I could probably get into trouble, and abuse this gift i have, but I use it wisely and i enjoy being a person people confide in. So anyway, now when i'm at church and i see her, i will be able to say "Hi Laura, how are you doing?" And she will feel happy because we are friends now. I also made another friend, Emily, while we were eating dinner. She's pretty cool, and she brought her dog with her, which made an easy in cuz i love dogs. She, i normally would take interest in, but she may have come along to late..... I will keep you in suspense. Just know for now that there is a girl named Allison, and she is amazing! :)

My Day. Today.

My day today: (roughly)

7:00 am-Alarm on cell phone goes off, and i look at it thinking "Today....i can turn it off and go back to sleep as long as i want." Oh the glory of having no work today.

10:00 am-Stereo alarm goes off to get me up so i can be productive. What do i do? Anyone want to guess? yep, i turned it off and went back to sleep. Oh it was amazing.

11:30 am-I hear the doorbell ring...that's odd, no one EVER rings our doorbell. I hear some voices out by the front door, then i hear a knock on my door. My new roommate is like "hey i think there is a package for you, I'm not sure though cuz it has the address off by 2 #'s" All i could think was...*dude, I'm sleeping...can't you tell that? I mean i know it's 11:30, but my door is closed and have you seen me yet?* Although i suppose it was good that he woke me up, other wise my day would probably been a complete waste....which i guess wouldn't have been so terrible, other than i did have stuff to do.

12:00 pm-Finish the episode of Lost i started last night, now i have 1 to go to get caught up...except with today being Thursday it seems I'm 2 behind again. Oh well.

1:30 pm- After reconnecting w/ an old friend from high school, through facebook, i decided to get up and freaking get ready for the day. Jenny Dal Soglio...i think i spelled it right? Anyway...she was a friend from school back in the day. She had been married, so the name on her profile i didn't recognize. But i guess she just got divorced, which is unfortunate, but it was neat to get to talk to her again after so many years...especially considering i had a crush on her in 7th grade :)

2:00 pm-$5 footlong sub from Subway. Oh baby. Sweet Onion Chicken Teriyaki. AMAZING. While i enjoyed this delectable sub, i watched the movie called The Last Castle. It was pretty good. It had the guy from The Sopranos in it, and a couple other famous actors. It reminded me a lot of Shawshank Redemption, but really only til the end...cuz the end was way different. Both good movies though. Shawshank is probably one of my favorite movies of all time. I recommend it if you haven't seen it.

4:00 pm-Go into my room to do my homework, but ha...did i start it? No. I think i got stuck talking to someone on facebook...freaking facebook chatting thing...i actually love it, but it's annoying cuz it makes facebook a billion times more distracting now. Oh well.

5:00 pm-6:30 pm- Did Spanish homework...well i got caught up, and finally got to the point the class is at. It sucks when you wait to get your book til the first day of class, then you go to get it and they are out, so you have to pay full price because they have to order it for you AND you have to wait for it. Luckily it's only a handbook, and was only $20. But waiting for it was inconvenient and annoying. But getting caught up, and understanding more or less what the guy was talking about, makes the class that much better. That class is pretty cool in itself. Spanish Phonetics. I remember a guy from work telling me it was worthless and boring when he had it, but I'm guessing i have a different teacher cuz the guy is freaking funny and makes the class actually interesting.

6:30-7:30-I recently started watching the show Bones. (watch it here) It's pretty interesting, and it makes me want to be a forensic detective. She's such a genius. So i spent this hour watching an episode of the show. Again, i highly recommend it. I'm only 5 episodes into the first season, but it's pretty awesome. I don't understand how people can start a show NOT at the first season. Even if each episode is a story of its own, there is still character development and plots that continue throughout episodes that i think make a series what it is. That's my 2 cents.

7:30-9:00- Read for my history class. Really, this history class i'm in, normally i don't think i'd enjoy it. But seeing how it's spring term, and there is literally like 10 people in my class total, it makes the class pretty cool. We get into some pretty deep discussions about the issues we are discussing. For instance we talked about slavery the other day. We got into basically if there really was a moral issue with it, or if it was wrong, or right, or things like that. The people back in the day REALLY didn't see it as being a bad thing. I mean people have been enslaved throughout all periods of history. I'm not going to say it's right, and it ever has been, or ever will be, but there are people that would argue differently. The Lord used slavery to punish his people for a long long time. So you know, it's just in how you look at it.

9:00-10:00 pm-Watched Planet Earth ON BLUE RAY w/ Ace and Bob, while eating a soup Mike had made for himself and Becky for their date night. The combination of the two, was pretty awesome. The soup was really really really good, and Planet Earth on Blue Ray....well it doesn't get much better than that. We learned there is a creature that dwells who knows how far down in the ocean, called "The (something) squid from Hell. I'll get the exact name from Ace....but seriously, the Blue Ray makes SUCH a big difference. I don't know how I'll ever be able to go back again...

10:00 pm-now-Goofing off online and talking to random people.

Ok so those times are basically REALLY rough estimates. Of course i didn't write down the times and exactly what i was doing. I think some of it may actually be out of order? And i think i watched Bones twice, not just once...but anyway. I think my day was full of pretty random and kind of relaxing stuff. I just needed to prove i'm living life and trying to be good at it. I really am going to write about the second half of my Spain trip. I just haven't gotten around to it yet. Don't be a hater. I'm gunna go see what movie mike and becky got. Later!