Monday May 26th, 2008
Even though it was a holiday, and i could have had it off work, i still decided to work. Time and a half has a nice ring to it. Allison and I both were extremely nervous for this day, we didn't know what to really expect. But honestly, it turned out to be one of the best days/dates of my life.
After a lot of annoying people calling me, i got off work around 1:00 pm. Since this is our first date, and to kind of have neutral ground and for convenience purposes, we decided to meet in Sandy for lunch at Chili's. I got there first, since Ally decided to be lazy and sleep in and take forever making herself pretty for me, but i didn't mind. Her being a little late, gave me a chance to do something i had been planning on doing for a long time and was really excited about: Buying her flowers. A long time ago, she had told me her favorite two flowers were White Roses and Pink Lily's. I had never forgotten, and found it only appropriate to buy some for her. I stopped in Draper at a flower store, and went and picked some out and had them wrapped up and put together nicely. I was pretty much freaking out, it was the first time i'd ever done such a thing. I just hoped she would like them. So i got to Chili's and decided to leave them in the car for after lunch when we left to go do whatever. I got to Chili's around 2:15 and just waited for her to get there. She texted me at 2:30 saying she was there. She walked in, and i looked around the corner and our eyes met for the first time. Of course we had a big hug, and just huge smiles on both of our faces. We sat down and just started talking. It was a little weird at first, just seeing how we were so used to talking on the phone or through other methods, but i still felt like there was a connection. Lunch went well. We talked, and laughed, and actually saw how the other reacted to certain things. It was great.
We left Chili's and went out to my car. I had mentioned to her during lunch that i had gotten her something....i didn't want to mention this, it just kind of slipped out. So when we got to the car, i walked with her to the passenger side and opened the door and reached in and pulled out the flowers. She was pretty happy about it, and said she loved them. I just really wanted this date to be special, and so far it was going well. I knew she would love them and it made me happy that she was happy. We got in the car, and started driving to our first activity. Duck feeding.
I have NO IDEA how we got on the topic of feeding ducks one night, but we decided it would be fun to do as part of our first date. Since it was raining, we didn't really think we would have much luck finding ducks anywhere. We went up to her friend Sarah's' apartment to see if the usual ducks would be out. We pulled up and saw 4 ducks in the pond, enough we figured to get some bread and feed. We went to a gas station, strike 1: No bread....what gas station doesn't have bread? Seriously. Luckily there happened to be a Smith's across the street, AND a bargain stand with really cheap bread. I think we got like a whole loaf and some rolls for like less than $2. It was amazing. We pulled up to the pond, and after sitting in the car listening to Muse for a little bit, we went to go feed our little friends. Strike 2: Apparently some ducks just aren't that intelligent. The stupid ducks in the pond would NOT come over to where we were throwing the bread. I don't know if they weren't hungry, or scared of us, or the rain made them afraid. Whatever it was, they didn't want bread. Lame. But we saw some other ones on the grass waddling around, and went and fed them....they must have been the smart Duck family. They got full and kind of walked away, so we walked around trying to find other ones to feed...Strike 3: No more ducks. We were ok with it though, since it was kind of dreary outside and our feet were cold (we were both wearing flip flops and it was raining). We were originally going to go to Boondock's, but since it was bad weather, it wasn't really the best option. We decided on Nickelcade....yeah hadn't been there since i was like 12.
Who knew with $5 in nickels, you could have so much fun! Of course the games weren't amazing, and some of them wouldn't even work together, but i think we spent more than half of our money on Time Crisis. The other half was on Basketball, driving games, pin ball, and other stuff It was pretty sweet. At the end, we wasted the last of our nickels on a game to try and win some tickets. Since we only had like 20 tickets total, and didn't really care to get a bouncy ball, we gave them away to little kids. We were walking out, and i chose my kid. I said hi to him and he looked at me like as if i were going to hurt him, then i handed him a bunch of tickets. His face lit up, and his sisters eyes bulged. It was a great feeling giving away 20 tickets :) After Nickelcade, we didn't really have a lot planned. Our only plan was to go to Indian Jones later that night around 8:30. We decided to go up to my parents house so i could show my mom pictures and videos from Spain, and so Allison could meet them. I know some of you might say "Wow she met your family on the first date..." but that really just is how my family roles. They are casual and friendly, and it's normal for them to meet dates. So we spent some time there, going through my pictures to Spain (which i still need to finish on here...) and then we all went to dinner together at Spaghetti Mama's down at Jordan Commons. Allison had a riot laughing at my brother, and at my parents, and at our family. Basically my family is crazy, and if you can laugh with us...you will fit right in :)
Indiana Jones was ok. It wasn't amazing. I know there are some people who would say it was the worst movie ever made, but i still think it was pretty good. It WAS after all Indiana Jones. You couldn't expect it to vary to far from the original feeling of the older movies, even if it DID have aliens in it. So the whole time, well from after lunch up until the end of the night, we were both just extremely comfortable with each other. Holding hands, cuddling, and what not. We just clicked, everything felt so normal, so natural. It was great. After the movie, we decided to go back up to my house to just kind of hang out some more, and just be with each other. I told her we had a pac-man machine at our house, and she was totally stoked to play it. We played Pac-man for about a half hour and just had fun together. Then we decided to watch the Muse concert (did i mention we are both huge fans of Muse?) that i had told her about. I gave it to my brother for his bday, so we had it at my parents house. We turned it on and sat down on the couch and were just cuddled and watched Muse be amazing on stage. I asked her if she would rub my shoulders for me, because they were in oodles of pain for whatever reason. They always are. During this time, i was just engrossed in the feeling of her touching me and easing my pain. She then decided to massage my head...yeah it was amazing. After this she just put her arms around me and decided to hold on to me for what seemed like forever, but was probably only a few minutes. The time spent with her, just doesn't feel like time at all. It just goes by and i wouldn't even know or care how long it was. After this experience, i got up and sat on the couch again, but this time with her laying down and resting her head on my chest. She turned around and looked up at me and just stared me in the eyes. During this time i just wanted to make her happy and do what i could to make her comfortable. I ran my fingers on her head and through her hair and just was happy to be around her. Ok...so the next part was pretty dang awesome. I was doing the above mentioned, and she opened her eyes and kind of caught me looking at her...she says i was staring, but that sounds stalkerish.....but i was looking at her. She asked "what are you thinking" i said "nothing really" Then she made a pouty face. If any of you know Allison, the pouty face is pretty much one of the funnies and most adorable things in the world. Anyway i said "if you don't get that pouty face off, i'm going to have to kiss it off." Then she made it again, and i kissed her. It was pretty much amazing....and since it was my first kiss, and not rushed, and really awesome, it just made the moment that much better. I forgot to mention, that this whole time my brother had been in the room, but with his back turned to us playing his computer game. All i know is heard him say something, i looked up and saw him whip around to his computer screen....yeah we got caught on 3 levels. 1. My first kiss. 2. Our first kiss. 3. By my BROTHER. It was pretty hilarious. We were laughing for like 10 minutes after that and kissed again but stopped so we would gross him out. We finished the concert, and left. I took her back to her car around 2:15 am. We talked for a minute, and then we kissed again. All the kissing this night, were pretty much amazing. I hadn't ever had previous experience with kissing, but what i do know is that it was better than what you see in the movies. It was awesome.
The next couple days were interesting. The whole reality of the situation kind of scared me a little bit, and i kind of got cold feet. But, i got over it and was way excited to go out with her again. The original plan was to go with her mom and work down to Wendover. I guess her mom works with elderly people, and every once in awhile they take the "Fun Bus" down to Wendover to gamble and what not. Since i really didn't want to gamble, and she had the day off anyway, she decided just to stay and spend the day with me. I had gotten work off also to go with her, so i didn't have to worry about it either.
The night before, we were up until i believe it was close to 4 or 5....yeah this was a normal occurrence up until this point. We both woke up around 11 and i made my way up there and got there around 12:30 or so. Basically she attacked me :) JK, but she just gave me a big hug and we went into her house. I met her sister Ashley, and saw the flowers and a little bit of her house. Then we talked and kissed for a little bit. We were sitting on the couch totally making out, when we heard the front door open. Anyone that has ever been caught kissing or making out, knows what it does to you and your heart. Basically you freak out, your heart starts racing and you start sweating. So her brother walks in, totally taken back at the sight of us. It wasn't anything gross or bad, it was just him being startled....he said hi and just kept walking. Basically that ended everything. We were, again, laughing hysterically and decided it was time to leave. We went out to eat at a Thai restaurant, enjoyed each others company, and then headed up to Salt Lake. We went to the planetarium and goofed around. Here's the only picture of us together in existence :)
We went to an I-max movie called "Mummies: The secret of the Pharaohs" or something like that. Honestly, it wasn't that good, but we really didn't care since we were just worried about us being together. After the movie, we went out and walked around in some of the stores at Gateway. She bought me ice cream, and some chocolate covered cherries for self...which i only ever saw her eat like 2 of....odd. Then we went to the Lovesac store, and were basically hounded to buy one... "I'll knock $50 off right now for you!" No thanks...I'll buy something when I WANT it not when YOU WANT me to. Our plan was to meet my sister and the guy she was dating, as well as my buddy Jake and his fiance, all for dinner. We met them at Olive Garden and had a lot of fun. Everyone got along, and was laughing, and just having a good time. Then we decided to go back up to our house to play games and do whatever. Since it was a Thursday night, it wasn't like everyone could be out way late or whatever. Jake had to work early, so they left around 10 or so. But it was fun just hanging out and being with other people too. ( we played a game and somehow Niga Turtles came up...ask Allison...hahaha)
So in a nutshell, those were the two nights. We ended the Thursday date watching Snow White (Ally hadn't seen it), cuddling, and kissing. We left my house around 1:00, and i got back to Provo around 2:15 am. It was a great night, and a great time. I felt so good after our date, that everything was going perfect and nothing could go wrong. We just have so much fun together, we get along, we are so similar it's scary, and everything was awesome. I just didn't think anything could happen....of course with that lead, anyone could tell what i will talk about next is that something did go wrong....it did, but it didn't at the same time. Let me explain.
Basically, Allison is the first person I've ever actually come to love. I know it's hard for anyone to accept that since I've only known her for 3 weeks, but i know it is possible. We talked so many nights til 2 or 3 am, some even til 5 or 6. We just know so much about each other, so many small details, so many things that we have trusted each other immensely. I really feel like i have a best friend. One that i can confide anything in, and tell anything and not worry about what they will think. My cousin once told me, to just become best friend with someone and when they are your best friend, the rest will follow. Now i don't know if it just my fear of being serious, commitment, getting hurt, wanting to date other girls, anything. I don't know. All i know, is my feelings as of right now are this. I love Allison Parker. Whether it be just as a person, a friend, a soul mate, or whatever you want to call it. I just know i haven't ever felt the way i do about her with anyone else. However, there is a side of me i can't explain. A side that tells me i still need to date other people. I have a couple theories about why these feelings arose. 1. Since it is my first time NOT BEING hurt, i could have a psychological problem making me think it will eventually get to the point where i will be hurt, and i'd better break it off before anyone else hurts me. 2. I'm not ready for commitment. It doesn't mean i CAN'T commit, i'm just not ready for a serious relationship. It's odd though, when you get something you want...then you have it and you realize you didn't actually want it yet...yeah kind of crazy. or 3. There is someone i need to help first before i can be serious with someone else. I don't know. It might be far fetched to say the spirit is telling me to date other people, date Allison, and just see where things go. But it's so hard. I know how she feels about me, i know how i feel, and i have an immense inner turmoil eating me away. I just need to figure this out. It's so hard and confusing and doesn't make any sense at all. I want to be with her, and not hurt her. I know i have already hurt her, and i already hurt myself. So anyway, that is the update on the Allison Kaye Parker situation.
Today during Bishop Interviews (i'm the exec. sec. of my ward, thus i'm there with the bishop while he does interviews, giving me time to do whatever i want) I wrote down my feelings. It just came out in lines...like a poem or something, bu not really...here i'll just write it and you can decide.
HOW CAN I FEEL THIS WAY, AFTER SO MUCH YOU HAVE PUT ME THROUGH. YOU LOOK INTO MY EYES, YOU'VE SEEN THE PAIN DEEP WITHIN MY SOUL. YOU CAN'T LET GO, I CAN'T SEE WHY. EVERYTHING MATTERS, NOTHING MATTERS. LIFE WILL GO ON, THE WORLD WILL COME TO A STOP. A HALT. A PAUSE. THE EARTH SPINS UNCONTROLLABLY. LAUGHING OUT LOUD UNCONTROLLABLY ECHOING IN SPHERES OF CHAOS AND WONDER. HEARTS POUNDING. FINGERS TREMBLING. TEARS FALLING. SHAKY VOICES. ROSES BLOOMING. IN THIS WORLD OF CHAOS, WE ARE BUT A SMALL PART OF AN UNFATHOMABLE UNIVERSE. POUNDING, SWIRLING, EVER CHANGING. SILENCE IS BLISS TO HER EARS. BEING WRAPPED IN HIS ARMS, NO CARES OR WORRIES IN THE WORLD. THIS IS ALL SHE REALLY WANTED. TO BE LOVED BY ONE WITHOUT ANY WORRY, OR ANY FEAR OF BEING LOST IN A WORLD OF HURT. NEVER BEFORE WAS A STRONGER LOVE KNOWN IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD. YET THE WORLD CALLS. NO ONE KNOWS WHY, OR CAN UNDERSTAND THE REASON. NEITHER ONE OF THEM CAN COMPREHEND THE WHY, THE HOW, THE REASON. IS THERE A REASON? WHY CAN'T THIS BE EASY. WHY CAN'T IT ALL MAKE SENSE. AREN'T' WE HERE TO BE LOVED? WHAT DOES THE WORD LOVE MEAN. IS IT JUST, TO BELIEVE, LOVE IS ONLY A FEELING? LOVE IS AN ACTION. LOVE IS A SUBSTANCE YOU CAN BREATHE IN, EAT, DRINK, TOUCH. LOVE IS REAL. HURT IS REAL. PAIN IS REAL. WHY DO TWO OPPOSITE WORDS GO SO WELL TOGETHER. THEY WALK HAND IN HAND. IT SHOULD NOT BE THIS WAY. IT IS NOT FAIR. THE ANIMALS DO NOT GO THROUGH THIS. IS IT BETTER TO HAVE NO EMOTIONS? TO LIVE THE LIFE A DOG, A CAT, A FROG, A MOUSE. THE ONLY WORRY OF LIFE IS TO EAT AND SLEEP. TO FALL IN A SLUMBER OF DEEP DREAMS, NEVER WISHING, NEVER WONDERING OR FALTERING ABOUT ANYTHING. THE BLISS OF BEING IN LOVE . THE JOY OF FEELING LOVED. YET IT CAN NOT BE. THE REASON UNKNOWN, BUT ACCEPTED. TIME WILL PASS. THEY WILL MOVE ON. PERHAPS ONE DAY, THEY WILL KNOWS, AND COME TO TERMS OF PEACE, PERHAPS IN THE ARMS OF ANOTHER, PERHAPS IN THE ARMS OF EACH OTHER. ONLY TIME WILL TELL. LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST, THAT'S WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT. TO BE HAPPY, IS TO BE ALIVE. TO BE ALIVE IS TO BE A PART OF THIS WORLD AND GOD'S PLAN.
That's it. It's all scattered, and probably doesn't make sense. But it makes sense to me, and i promise on my life that it will all make perfect sense to Allison. I wrote it all in caps because that's how i wrote it on paper. It took up two sides of a page. The words were just coming to me, and spewing out of my pen. I felt like a writer...it was quite intriguing.
So anyway mi gente, that's my update. I'm sorry it wasn't the best blog ever. But i feel good about it. I know things will work out for the best. I know what will happen will happen, and if things are meant to be, well they will become what they will. I'm just trying to live life and be good at it the best i can and know how!
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